John 1:11 He came to His own, and those who were His own did not receive Him.
As of late I’ve been experiencing rejection, and I don’t just mean in the context of query letter to agents, I mean being hemmed in by rejection on all sides.
From friends, family, trusted allies.
It seems to follow me. I’m not good enough, or wise enough or talented enough. I fall short over and over again no matter how hard I try. I honestly don’t believe in the credo that if you just work long and hard enough you’ll make it and people will accept you and you’ll find the elusive success. It doesn’t always work, because people disappoint -- over and over again. In their frailties and flaws, they will reject you and disappoint you and will never see you like God sees you.
And I’m here to say, it’s okay. I’m actually saying it with a sincere smile. God is growing me in the most perfect way possible. A way that is born out of rejection and heartache -- a way that will strengthen your very spiritual life to iron.
One day while I was driving home after one of a myriad of rejections, I angrily asked God why? Why? Why was it I was only experiencing rejection and not acceptance and success? My anger burned hot and there were some tears. But God gently spoke to me that he is building me to be the kind of person he wants me to be and that kind of person can only become that way through walking the same path of rejection that Jesus walked. Sure he had his 12 friends around him, but in the end, when he was facing the most extreme thing ever, they all ran away.
I was also reminded about Joseph and how he was imprisoned for a crime he didn’t commit. I’m sure he had plenty of bitter tears as he endured it. But in the end, God used that rejection in the most spectacular great way imaginable.
Truth be told, I could wallow and be angry about these things, but in the end I know that God is using them for my good. We see and feel rejection, but God gives us acceptance and lets nothing about our lives and experiences go to waste.
It’s in rejection that God shows us our validation only comes from him. If the world’s rejection doesn’t matter then neither will its praise and we will operate from the true source of our identity.
So, I’ll admit it. I am a reject of the world, but an accepted child of God and that is more than enough for me.
Verses to hang your hope on:
See what great love the Father has lavished on us, that we should be called children of God! And that is what we are!
1 John 3:1 NIV
For I am convinced that neither death nor life, neither angels nor demons, neither the present nor the future, nor any powers, neither height nor depth, nor anything else in all creation, will be able to separate us from the love of God that is in Christ Jesus our Lord.
Romans 8:38-39 NIV
Uninvited: Living Loved When You Feel Less Than, Left Out, and Lonely
by Lysa TerKeurst
Dealing With The Rejection and Praise of Man
By: Bob Sorge
Apply and consider
What areas of your life do you feel the most rejection? Are you processing under God’s watchful eye or are you processing it under your own criticism? Make a plan to counter at least one lie that is told to you through rejection. Write the truth on a card and when you feel tempted to speak lies back to yourself, reach for the card.